Self-leadership: great leadership starts with you

When we speak with experienced women leaders, many cringe when reflecting on their first leadership roles. With little support and guidance and few relatable role models, they adopted the accepted style of the time. Their clumsy attempts to mimic ‘good’ leadership traits often left them burned out or, even worse, burning bridges.

There is another way.

Self-leadership isn’t fluffy; it’s fundamental

Self-leadership boils down to recognising that you must learn to lead yourself before you can effectively lead others. That means understanding who you are and how you want to show up as a leader – and taking responsibility for getting there. In an increasingly complex world, the practice is starting to get attention.

Many leadership development programmes focus on building skills related to conflict resolution, critical thinking and managing relationships. We cover those critical skills too, but sometimes sense an eye-roll when we explain that a key pillar of the Powrsuit platform is establishing each member’s unique leadership identity.

We get it; it sounds soft.  But the building blocks of self-leadership are actually the hardest to get right – especially when there are few examples to follow. 

Unlocking excellence: the four building blocks of self-leadership

With the gender leadership gap still refusing to budge, it’s time to break the mould and build our own. Instead of mimicking the traits we’ve grown up with, we can curate a unique and authentic leadership identity. By using these building blocks, those of us who don’t fit the mould can discover and accept ourselves as leaders, establish boundaries, and hone those strategic yeses

Self-awareness

Being consciously aware of who you are and what makes you unique. Deeply understand and embrace your beliefs, biases and values and actively use that knowledge to guide decisions. 

Ask yourself: “Can I list my core values?” “What environment brings out my best self?” “How do I think/feel/act when my fundamental needs aren’t being met?” and “Am I applying my strengths to achieve my goals?”.

Self-acceptance 

Know and accept the strengths you bring to the table and those you don’t. Challenge limiting beliefs, acknowledge and outsource weaknesses, and invest in honing your value.

Ask yourself: “What strengths make me uniquely valuable?” “What beliefs are no longer serving me?” and “What gaps do I need others to fill?”.

Self-management 

Know where you want to go and establish practices to get there. Lead by example with classics like holidays, working hours and stress.

Ask yourself: “Do my words and actions align?” “Can I put some boundaries into place?” and “Am I proud of how I show up at work?”.

Self-growth

Embrace continuous self-learning; use feedback and failure to adapt and improve. Put in place good habits (and small actions!) to reflect, iterate, and progress. Recognise and influence what you can control and avoid falling into victim mode.

Ask yourself: “When was the last time I asked for feedback?” “Is the fear of failure holding me back?” and “What should I start doing to progress on my goals?”.

Foundations first!

Core leadership skills are essential. Communication, conflict management, and collaboration are required tools in the leadership toolbelt – but that toolbelt is useless until the foundations are in place.

Take action

Get out a notepad and set a timer for 30 seconds. Freewrite your answer to this question: What environments bring best out in me?

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